After some time without getting a single reply, you begin to wonder if you're being too picky. Many of them you don't see anything like a deep connection. And each time you've read their profiles, understood where you may have similarities, talked about them more. One was with someone who immediately said they didn't want to see me again after the first date, another was with someone who stopped even speaking to me after a few dates, and the last was so neurotic it was clear I was there as a comfort blanket and nothing more. But deep down it gnaws at you, even if you don't realise. In that time I've been on a total of three dates. Leave the bit about going to the gym though, infact why not put in cycling in there? Even with these changes, and with the ever decreasing criteria you use to search, no one is replying to you. You realise just how indifferent you feel to this woman. Because everyone around you says it'll get better.
This happens to soooooo many people, I hope you don't take it too personally.It's hard to do, but those ppl who never answered you very literally don't know you at all. I've talked with some women who say when they go on dates they only meet odd/weird/creeps.If they're willing to put up with all the messages they get, they basically have their pick of the litter.For men, well, you better have one of those specific attributes that women are looking for, because otherwise you will be invisible.It's not that they are just similar to RL: They're actually far worse.
Online dating makes some sense for women that want to find some guys with specific attributes.After making sure you've hit all the salient points (never once going to the route of "ure so sexy", you don't want to be a creep online), you send off the message and wait for a reply. Would like to get to know you better." Just because we're online doesn't mean we want guys to be all on top of us. You politely explain that you're sorry if you've sent her the same message again, but you weren't sure if the last message got through. I know it's a strangers word to take on face value, and that many would judge me and assume I must be some awful individual, one of those fake "nice guys".I know that because, especially on OKC, there were so many matches that kept repeating themselves. When a guy would send me a relatively long, thought out message, I was more inclined to respond. So I felt like he deserved at the very least a nice response back. I get a little paranoid when someone reads my profile and then I get this long message about everything in their life and how they are so into me.It was easier to keep track of them, by blocking the ones that weren't a match. So it has to be longer than "hey," but not a novel. I read the first post and felt bad because I've been sending out longer messages (on a language learning penpal site, not dating, but whatevs) and not getting responses... I'm _____, by the way."I also met my boyfriend on OKC, but I messaged him first.You both have the same outlook on life, the same interests (which for you is a rarity given your hobbies), and to boot they're attractive. So spend some time reading their profile, making some notes as you go, then crafting a message to them. If you write a huge message about every detail about my and/or your profile, you seem way to eager and forward.